The following Featured Post comes from Relationship Group 8, Thread 5.

1. Same race relationships
Fri, Sep 17, 1999 - 4:54 PM/EST
bianca

Sometimes when I'm talking to the politically correct and 'progressive', I sense that they view my decision to date Black men exclusively as racist. The main reason for my decision is that I've only been attracted to Black men thus far. Does this make me racist?

2. girlfriend, please
Sat, Sep 18, 1999 - 1:15 AM/EST
candace

Bianca:

I have read quite a few of your postings and realize that you are more intelligent than the dribble you just left. Come on...being in a same race relationship isn't what makes you racist, but it's your viewpoint on other people's romantic choices(which may stand outside of your own beliefs) which brings into question your prejudices(known or unknown). Love is beautiful...and as a black woman, I feel a very specific thrill at seeing the love between a black man and a black woman because I remember the history behind our people struggle to be free to love each other as man and woman(check out the story between William and Ellen Kraft).

But, I would never diminish the love between two people regardless of their differences--due to religion, sexual orientation, ethnicity, age, physical disabilities, etc. Love is a very beautiful and a very trying:) thing. It needs all the support that you and I can give it.

3. I think I asked the wrong question
Sat, Sep 18, 1999 - 4:19 AM/EST
bianca

Thanks for the sort of compliment, Candace. Granted, my question about if I'm a racist could have been phrased better, but I have already encountered the attitude I am talking about in this discussion group. Doug implied that his children with a Black woman would be better equipped to deal with a multicultural society on the Is Interracial Dating Self-Loathing thread. Better equipped than whom? Children with same race parents, no doubt. At times, I have found that people in interracial relationships project an air of superiority when it comes to diversity and acceptance.