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The following Featured Post comes from TV Series Group 7, Thread 7. 1. What about unconditional love? I just wanted to share an experience of mine and see if anyone can relate. My husband's parents have essentially banished him from their lives, because of the color of my skin. I have always been considered to be quite a catch by all of my prior boyfriends (smart, pretty, sweet, well-mannered, ambitious...) They have always been so proud to "take me home to mom" that it was sometimes embarrassing to hear them introduce me. The same thing happened with my husband's parents, they loved everything about me "on paper" and even loved me after talking to me on the phone, telling my husband they could not wait to meet me. Well, the day they did, everything changed, they saw that I was black. Suddenly, this wonderful girl that they couldn't wait to meet seemed someone that would make a better friend only for their son. The relationship between them and my husband basically came down to an ultimatum, them or me. My husband (obviously) chose me. I can totally relate to Bill and Karen's struggle with family. The thing that upsets me the most, is that I have always believed that parents had an unconditional love for their children, boy was I wrong. Is there anyone out there that either had the same situation or just the opposite (i.e. the parents said we accept your spouse no matter what...) I would love to hear from you. One of the excuses I have heard from the parents, as well as other people oppossed to interracial marriage, is what about the children. I personally don't think that the overall difficulties of an interracial person is that different from that of any minority person growing up in a majority setting (myself included.) I found myself totally relating to Cicily on her struggles in Africa to relate to the other black students, as I have grown up around predominantly non-minority persons, for most of my life and sometimes had to fight to be accepted by certain black peers. 2. Unconditional love is tough to find! Hi, Madison, 3. Unconditional love As I have talked about earlier people are often 4. Unconditional love personified... Our experience with unconditional love has been very, very different. My wife of almost 12 years and I met while we were in undergraduate school on the wide open cornfields of central Illinois. When we first began spending time together, she was very open and honest with me, that in our "dating" one another, she needed to be cautious. She and I both discussed many times the reality that in "dating" we might be setting into motion the "wheels" of marriage. We both agreed that if in anyway, our choosing to be a couple was met with resistance by either or both of our respective families, then our relationship would need to end. Our relationship developed and blossomed over many, many months. The school we attended was very small and our relationship was indeed well known on campus. When the time finally arrived for us to give heavy and serious thought to our relationship moving to the "engagement" phase we both sat down with my wife's father and mother. They expressed only ONE concern...this was it... if our impending marriage were to prevent either of us from entering our chosen field of endeavor upon graduation from college (which in both of our cases was specialized, full time, Christian ministry) then perhaps marriage to each other was not a good idea....after finding my first full time pastorate in Canada immediately upon our graduation, I stood at an altar and heard my future father-in-law proudly proclaim, "if anyone told me I could have picked my future son-in-law...I can say with complete honesty I would have picked you..." ! That is indeed unconditional love.....and I believe plenty more where that came from! 5. RE: Rogue's family Thanks for sharing, Rogue - what a great story of acceptance and support from your wife's family - hope your family was also able to embrace you both! 6. to rogue Thanks for sharing that story. It makes me happy to see that there are people out there such as you described. 7. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE Dear Madison it hurts to here your story. My family was opposite of your husband's. Our family has a-lot of race-mixing and for a very long time. I always say "you name it we got it".Being an adoptee my parent's never shut the door.I can't imagine how heart-breaking it had to be for the both of you.I guess the old addgee applies "what dosen't destroy you can only make you stronger". And to Slyvie congrat's to helping your parent's on diminishing one form of prejudice. 8. Unconditional Love I have dated out of my race since I was 15 yo. My parents did what they could to discourage it. They told me to only be friends with these boys. I was raised to think no differently of anyone else, so I could not figure out why they did not approve. From the best of my understanding with how my parents were raised you just did not mix with African-Americans. My family came close but not to my knowledge, to disowning me. My mother told my father that she would leave him because I was her flesh and blood. Read more featured posts here or continue reading thread 7 from TV Series Group 7. |
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